How do can we possible manage everything that is happening now? Our best possible coping mechanism we can give ourselves is to live right in this itty bitty and fleeting moment. The present moment will always be with you. Your present. In this moment, those of us who are sick are alive. Those of us […]


“What we’ve got here is failure to communicate.” – From Cool Hand Luke  I may be naïve. I may be missing something. But here’s my issue. Human beings have always relied on stories to explain the mysteries of the world. Myth taught us what it meant to be a bad guy, and what it took […]

Tap Your Troubles Away

My hipster daughter, Gilda, and I often share tips on various energy processes because energy work is quite powerful. The trick is to find a technique that works for you, and that you’ll actually practice. Some of the more familiar types of energy work are Qi Gong, Tai Chi, Reiki, but there are many.  Best […]

Where’s my Invite?

  Today is blog day. Usually, I wake up on blog day with a theme or issue that pretty much demands to be written. Today is no different. Except this one today is embarrassing for me. I want to talk about my own worst character trait. I feel compelled to. I’d like to mature out […]

Quitting The Dead Princess Club

Years ago, I read Gilda Radnor’s book, It’s Always Something. Like many of us with advanced Cancer, she had tried to figure out what it was that had made her so sick. When she was on SNL, she had suffered eating disorders, chewed sugarless gum constantly, and drank endless cans of Tab. I did all of […]

A Little Prayer for Today

Good morning. Every day is a string of choices, like pearls. How do I greet my children, my dogs? With love, or irritation? What will I eat for my breakfast? How will I look at myself in the mirror today? Will I see myself through the critical, unforgiving eyes of my father? Or love my […]

Stop Chasing the Bacon

This month I turn 57. I’m getting long in the tooth, as they say. And I am happy to earn my fangs. As often is the case, the older we get, the more we realize we don’t know, and youth is wasted on the young and all that jazz. But there are some things I […]

Following the Heartbeats

Good morning! I’ve had a whirlwind few days with fabulous friends. I love them all and I love doing things with them, but I have a big reclusive streak as well. That reclusive, introverted part of me is my nemesis, because if left to my own devices, I will hide at home. I want to […]

Saving the World

Today I woke up utterly, completely exhausted and overwhelmed. Barely able to function, even though there is laundry to be done, groceries to buy, and bills to be paid before the work week starts again. I am too empty and too full. My heart hurts and I can’t do anything about the school shootings. I […]

I Will Never Be a Tall Black Man

One of my friends, Susan, has a phrase that she’s said to me many times over the years when I was full of self doubt; “People can tell you you’re a tall black man, but that doesn’t mean you are. It’s just not the truth.” There was more to the saying, like a tall black […]