The Most Wonderful Time of The Year.
Parent: Honey, kiss everyone good night and off to bed.
Kid: I don’t want to.
Parent: Don’t be rude, kiss our guests goodnight.
Kid: I don’t want to hug Uncle Tim.
Parent: Come on, he always takes really good care of you on your birthdays, let him know you appreciate it.
Teen: I don’t want to go to Coach’s house. Why do I have to go to his house?
Parent: All of his superstars go to his house. You should be grateful to be part of such an elite group.
Parent: I don’t want to hear any more stories about Grandpa. He doesn’t know what he’s doing, you have to cut him some slack. Plus, I don’t want that old coot cutting us out of his will. So, behave.
Kid: I don’t want Paul to sleep over any more.
Parent: You are so selfish! You know we care very much about each other. In fact, I would get used to Paul sleeping over quite a bit more. Don’t I deserve a little happiness?
Kid: I don’t want to sit on Santa’s lap.
Parent: We’ve been standing on this damned line for an hour, and I want a picture. Get going.
Kid: He tried to kiss me.
Parent: Of course he did. He loves you.
Kid: No, he tried to kiss me like grownups kiss.
Parent: How would you know how grown-ups kiss?
Kid: She came into the bathroom while I was in there. I think she’s drunk.
Parent: Well, she does like her cocktails.
Kid: She asked me to touch her.
Parent: You said yourself, she’s drunk. Next time, lock the damned door.
Kid: My teacher told the girls if they want their grades they have to stay after school.
Parent: What about the boys?
Kid: He gave them theirs in class today.
Parent: I’m tired of you sulking in your room whenever we have company. Give everyone a nice hug and a kiss hello. Be friendly, goddamnit!
Holidays are coming; relatives, family, guests. Create, support and demonstrate healthy boundaries. Value your children’s self-worth, and they will learn to do the same for themselves. Let them know their bodies are precious, private, and most of all, theirs. Your children’s first line of defense is you.